A Tower of Stones

CONFLICT TRANSFORMATION

Conflict is normal. It can't be avoided. What we CAN do is own our actions, acknowledge their impact on others, honor our dignity, and seek to repair harm. As a certified Conflict Mediator and Restorative Circle-Keeper, I work with individuals, families, school communities and teams to build deeper connections and resolve conflicts.

 

RESTORATIVE OFFERINGS

Conflict is never just about the concrete issues we see. The restorative practices I offer help to uncover the relational, emotional and energetic elements which also exist within a conflict.

  • CONFLICT COACHING SESSIONS

  • MEDIATION SESSIONS

  • RESTORATIVE CIRCLE DISCUSSIONS

  • CONFLICT CONSULTING, TRAINING & WORKSHOPS

 

A RESTORATIVE APPROACH TO CONFLICT  

To transform conflict more effectively, we reframe our approach from that of attack and defensiveness to one of restorative healing and connection. We actively shift our focus from winning and losing to better understanding and compassion.

  • Compassion transforms conflict. Practice self-compassion and empathy.

  • Own your actions honestly.

  • Notice your needs in this moment. 

  • Feelings point to needs being met or unmet.  

  • Listen deeply to yourself and to others.

  • Impact- acknowledge the impact of your actions on others.

  • Communicate bravely-our vulnerability connects us more deeply to others.

  • Trust that a new path IS always possible. 

 
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CONFLICT COACHING

Private Sessions to Process Conflicts, Heal Harm and Create a Conflict Action Plan

In Conflict Coaching sessions we address your specific issues, and I share tools to employ. We create a conflict resolution plan so you have concrete steps to take right away.   

  1. NORMALIZE conflict.

  2. AWARENESS of factors impacting your conflicts. 

  3. ACTIVITIES to heal, and build deeper connections with others.

  4. DEVELOP ACTION PLAN.

 
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CONFLICT MEDIATION

Mediation is a structured process where I meet with individuals and groups in dispute to uncover a path forward together. 

  • ASK questions to identify interests, issues, values & needs.

  • UNCOVER deeper insights.

  • CLARIFY how conflict impacts each individual.

  • GUIDE individuals in deciding how to deal with conflict, and move forward together in a fair, respectful manner.

 

RESTORATIVE CIRCLES

Communicate, Connect & Heal in Circle

RESTORATIVE CIRCLES offer a powerful process to work through issues for communities, families, schools and work teams. Circles are a restorative method that honors the voices of both individuals and groups. 

CIRCLE PRACTICE SEEKS TO:

  • Address Conflicts and Difficult Issues.

  • Repair Harm from Dignity Violations. 

  • Increase Communication, Deep Listening & Sharing.

  • Examine Diversity & Belonging.

  • Strengthen and Restore Bonds between individuals. 

  • Align Shared Values & Goals within a family or group. 

  • Process and heal from loss. 

Average Sessions Run 60-90-Minutes

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CONSULTING, TRAINING & WORKSHOPS

Interested in feeling more confident and prepared to handle the conflicts in your workplace or home? I will consult with you and your team on conflict training and workshops to support your specific goals.  

  • Toolbox of skills to employ for Conflict Transformation.  

  • Connection & Communication Skills and Activities.  

  • Mindful Compassion Practices.

  • Personalized Plan of Action to address conflicts.

  • Resource packets for attendees. 

 

CONFLICT RESOURCES

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RESOLVE TO BUILD BETTER FAMILY CONNECTION

January 2022

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STRATEGIES FOR BUILDING CONNECTION

February 2020

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REPAIRING CONFLICT

September 2019

 
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KK PEABODY

Certified Conflict Mediator 

Restorative Circle-Keeper 
Founder, Boys Adventure Circles

There are steps we can take to transform conflict and heal harm. Thankfully, these tools honor our dignity, build deeper connect, and allow us to communicate more effectivelyTogether, we build meaningful connections to transform conflicts compassionately.  When we process conflict properly, it can actually bring us closer.

Experience:


As a Certified Conflict Mediator and Restorative Circle-Keeper, I work with families, school communities and workplace teams to build meaningful connections and resolve conflicts compassionately. I implement restorative practices such as conflict coaching, mediation, conflict transformation training and Restorative Circles.  I have experience working with families and communities who have suffered loss. 

Conflict is never just about concrete issues we see. Restorative practices help uncover the relational, emotional and energetic elements which also exist within a conflict.

To that end, I have designed and presented in-school programs for team building, conflict resolution, empathy, as well as Restorative Circle training for faculty and students within independent schools.  I work with division heads, diversity, equity & belonging teams, school psychologists, teachers, parents, athletic teams and arts organizations.  I do Conflict Resolution training and workshops for teachers and schools, as well as organizations including CSEE www.csee.org.  


When we can incorporate physical movement into this conflict transformation work outcomes are more profound, especially for children.  I've run such Adventure Circles in schools, and with Boys Adventure Circles www.boysadventurecircle.com, a program I co-founded in 2017, which combines movement exercises and restorative circle discussions to develop emotional fluency, empathy and compassion skills for boys.

Education & Training:

Certified Conflict Mediator-with specializations in Family and Small Business Conflicts-by Elizabeth Clements at PLANNING CHANGE, NYC. 

Restorative Justice Training and Certified Restorative Circle-Keeper by Kay Pranis, Elizabeth Clements and PLANNING CHANGE. 

Diversity & Inclusion Certificate from Cornell University.  

NARRATIVE 4 Story Exchange Facilitator.

Aggression Replacement Training, International Institute for Restorative Practices.  

QPR Gatekeeper Suicide Prevention Certificate- QPR Institute.   

Empowering Women Accelerated Coaching Training by Dr Claire Zammit, PhD.  

BS Anthropology from Santa Clara University.

Board Roles:

Trustee, Williamstown Theater Festival www.wtfestival.org in the Berkshires.

Health & Safety Committee Member, Downtown United Soccer Club (DUSC)  www.dusc.org in NYC. Member, ACR-GNY, The Association for Conflict Resolution Greater New York Chapterwww.acrgny.org

KK PEABODY MEDIATION

77 Reade Street, NY, NY 10007

kkpeabody@gmail.com (917) 680-2610